Wednesday, December 15, 2010

What men and women want most in a relationship

Just some notes on what Prager said today. Words in italics are my observations.

Men want to be admired.
Women want a man they can admire.

Women want to be cherished.
Men want a woman they can cherish and protect and make her feel safe.

Integrity and strength.
Strength without integrity is machismo.
Integrity without strength is a nice milquetoast.

Men can be deceived by beauty.
Women can be deceived by strength.

The strength + integrity thing is not a very common combo.

You've left out: how does a woman generate that cherishing in her man? They don't come by it alone and without effort. I always seem to kill it off by giving him way more than he wants to be given. What I've seen in other women is a readiness to demand. Demand love, demand service, demand that he put himself second always. The movie "How to Lose a Man in Ten Days" was as true a story as any supposedly factual movie. Push him around, tell him what to do, be inconvenient, make him put out great service, and he'll be enslaved forever.

Still, I would like to know how they dare to practice of taking till he drops from the self-sacrifice. I give and give and give in an effort to get them to think me worthy of being given back to. Instead I earn their contempt. Meanwhile, these women just take and take and take and their men think they're the most wonderful things on earth.


It is very un-sexy for a man to just sit on the couch. Boy, isn't that the case. That's what my husband did, while his dad was constantly at work around his house. The wife, my mother-in-law, had something she could admire. At the same time, he could be proud of his beautiful, well-kept, eighty year old house, while my husband's forty-year-old house was falling into decay like a hillbilly's cabin. He wouldn't even let me hire people to fix the house, though he earned $86k per year. I had no respect for him.

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