What a man wants first and foremost from his relationship is to be held in high esteem.

I do believe this is as true as the law of gravity.

My marriage seemed to go bad when he started turning his back on me every night when I tried to come on to him. I was stroking and petting and admiring him both verbally as well as physically, and he'd roll away from me and turn his back on me. No, he was not inviting me to rub his back; as a matter of fact, he had said he actively "unwanted" any back rubs.

So I gave up. "I give up," I remember saying to myself. "I'm hurt by all these rejections; if he wants sex, he can come to me."

He only remembers that I didn't come on to him.

Go figure.