"My wife is the only woman in the world who is turned on by discussions of tax policy."

It is just wonderful that your wife is logical. About ten percent of women will tell you they are run by their reason rather than by their feelings; the others will say they want to be honored for their feelings more than for their thoughts, according to Barbara DeAngelis, author of Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know. Many of us who do run on reason are very proud of our condition and consider ourselves not just exceptional but special. When you claim your wife is the ONLY woman on the planet who thinks logically, you're not just insulting us all, but I believe you're stating a lie.

We thinking-over-feelings women are not devoid of feelings. In occasionally we respond similarly to the feelings-over-thinking. You can hurt us, even if we do rationalize our way out of it.

Similarly, I used to have a game partner (sort of like a tennis partner, though we had to text everything to one another instead of talking) who seemed to consider my being rational as an excuse for him to become abusive about once a week. He would send me a long list of criticisms--most of them very unkindly expressed, or simply not true or--that cut to the core, and then denied me any right to respond to the attack by stating that none of this was "personal", he was just stating the facts. I learned a few years later in The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense that this was a tactic for severely abusing someone, and she labeled it something like "analytical mode", one of many modes in which attackers gave themselves license to put someone else down. Watch out for that.

Like Prager, I like to analyze everything. The day he said, "If I had been on the Titanic I would have drowned trying to find what caused it instead of trying to find a life jacket," I recognized myself. Thank you, Prager; you gave me a way to explain to other people why I'm so curious and why I ask so many questions, or why sometimes I want to continue discussing a subject more thoroughly.

Unfortunately, too many people treat me as a common, feelings-based woman and misinterpret my curiosity or my wish to reason things out as something bad. It's a hard life.