Do you realize what you are fighting over? The stakes are so small.

No, we didn't realize what we were fighting over.

He had made it his goal in life to humiliate me. Too used to being humiliated myself, I did not understand that. Besides the name-calling, insults, personal attacks, lies, and the permanent state of "no" he lived in and subjected me to, there was the eye-rolling. Only with him it was cursing me under his breath (just loud enough to let our children know what utter garbage I was), accompanied by the "hopeless head-shake" as if to say, "You're an utterly worthless pile of crap and there's obviously no point in trying to deal with trash like you." II had no way of understanding this as the direct and vicious insult that it was, and he always denied it was a non-verbal way to insult me.

That's why I want to thank you, Dennis, for stating so unequivocally that the eyeroll is a very nasty put-down and a strong indicator of a couple's likeliness to divorce. We divorced anyway, but at least I had about five years of no eyerolls or headshakes.