Showing posts with label political bullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label political bullying. Show all posts

Friday, November 12, 2010

"They tried to protect him from pain"

Actually, no, they tried to pretend there was no pain. "How could those other kids be making fun of your ears when your ears aren't big?" Essentially they were Gaslighting their son. "Your perceptions and those of the other kids are completely against reality: your ears aren't big."

Your recommendation is just as bad. "So what if you have big ears, those kids have no business making fun of them because they could have made fun of so much else, like Bobby's big nose and Susie's lazy eye."

In other words: "You shouldn't feel hurt by these kids. You need to learn to not feel that way."

I have a suggestion. How about the parents acknowledge the child's hurt? "Oh, honey, it's so awful to have some kids picking on you. That must feel so terrible."

My parents, like young David's parents, denied that there was any pain, denied that anyone could possibly be picking on me, denied that being picked on could hurt or that it mattered if it did. None of this denial helped me deal with it in the slightest. What I needed to know was that I was a precious and valuable human being--the opposite of the message that my bullies were giving me, that I was worthless scum whose only purpose in life was to be kicked and spat upon by the worthy and important kids.

To be told I was scum needed to be contradicted by my parents, as well. That they denied everything that was happening to me, right down to my hurt feelings, did nothing to help me, but left me adrift in an ocean of hurt with no life preserver.

There are probably those who would say that Prager did acknowledge his son's pain, because they see an implied message, "[Sure it hurts but] so what?" and I would love to know how that worked for others as well. I can't see it, myself, but I'm willing to learn.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

"These applauses are, i'm finding, more depressing than..."

...the fools who make the statements."

Well, our Left are, among all the things Prager points out, essentially bullies.

A bully only functions well when he has an unresisting victim, and he brings with him a posse of bully wanna-be's who form a backdrop of support for the bully.

In echoing or mirroring what the bully does, the posse gain a large degree of status as they borrow his importance and power. They are only too happy to join in on the game of ridiculing or belittling the target and watching him helplessly cry, run away, or grow to an outraged anger.

Maher's audience are "sharers in the indignation" and they need to promote Reiner's belittling and ridicule so they can bask in it all the more themselves. It's a rare person who steps back from the party and looks at himself and what he's getting out of the bully event, and then says no to it.