Guest: Allison Armstrong

I caught the last half of this show when it was live. I regretted missing it. Today I should have known she would be among his "best of" shows, and yet I still managed to miss the first half. She's a magnificent speaker. Both sexes should listen to what she says because she speaks truth to ignorance.

Among the ignorant I count every American woman who has ever listened to her feminist foremothers, and every American male who doesn't know that his wife has been heavily influenced by these harpies posing as women posing as men-without-penises. Man haters. Their battle cry: "We want to be like you but only after we destroy you and everything you are." That is why we have the war on masculinity.

Okay, I caught the repeat broadcast on KHNR.

Just the notes:

Issue one: The eighteen minutes. That's "a quickie" to the rest of us.

Men do this all the time, and women do not understand it at all.

(Well, I do.) I love having a quickie with the man I love, if there's a man to love. I was married 23 years to a piece of garbage who didn't want to get divorced but he still wanted to treat me like crap. He'd ignore me for months at a time, and then out of the blue want a quickie. That was horrible. Had he been affectionate and or attentive during those intervening weeks and months, I'd have been delighted to rush to the bedroom for some fun and some man-pleasing, but since his primary mode was humiliation and hatred and distancing himself from both me and the children, it felt far more abusive than anything else. Yes, I showed him often that I was "on his side". Unfortunately that merely served as a malicious opportunity to kick me and crap on me emotionally.

Problem: the man who is out for days at a time. Her tearful delivery: You don't call, you don't ask, you never want to know how I'm doing, you're not interested, you think I'm nothing, cry cry cry.

Prager's solution: Pick up the damn phone and call, once a day and ask how she is.

Armstrong's advice: Learn ahead of time what she wants to be asked about, even if that means asking her directly. Prager's cautionary: Isn't that like the "what do you want for your birthday" question, that is so often rebuffed with, "you should know without my telling you."

Armstrong: Women have diffuse awareness. We have this enormous data base of preferences. This is how we know what you put in your coffee. This is how we know whether it's a yogurt day or a banana day. Men don't do this. So when YOU don't know whether I like cream in my coffee, we begin with, "you don't love me." Meanwhile, you're focused on catching that deer for the dinner table.

Caller: How do you strengthen your marriage if you're resentful of your husband because he's too busy?

I missed the answer. Something about pride. I would also ask if it's about the power struggle. That's what everything was attributed to by my husband's counselor.

After I got to sit down and talk to that counselor, though, the counselor found herself again and again looking at my husband and asking him, "did you really do that???" After the usual pause, he would give a very unexpected, "she deserved it." Counselor's response, "But Steve, that's abusive!"

Nuff said.

Male/female hour

I don't comment on this hour every week. I feel I'm handicapped. I'm a woman whose thinking is in the left brain, unlike the majority of women, who are right-brained.

Barbara De Angelis, in her book Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know, said that couples should start by asking themselves, "Do you want to be respected for your thoughts or cherished for your feelings?" and that 90% of men answer "respected for my thoughts" and the same percentage of women answer, "cherished for my feelings."

I'm not sure what that has to do with thinking. Years ago I was astonished when a fiftyish man told me, "men think logically, women use their feelings." It seemed so alien to me, having been a university fmeinist, to hear a man admit to such a prejudicial over-generalization. Eventually, though, I actually took a second look at the women I knew. Some of them seemed to be analytical and logical. The rest seemed to be ... "emotional" is too simplistic. But many of them certainly were counter-logical.

There is a reason why women don't become car mechanics at the same rate men do. Our feminists thought the answer was more counseling for girls--in other words, put pressure on them to become chemists, mathematicians, and mechanics, whether they want to or not. One of my roommates, though, has never once bent down to see what that tube in the dishwasher is for, and so she keeps covering it up because it seems to be a nice bowl holder. In fact it's the pipe that delivers water to the upper fan blade and MUST be left free. She's not just an idiot, she's a female who won't deal with a machine on ITS terms.

I can't explain it. Sadly, I also can't relate to it. The upshot is that I have a very hard time relating to most women. Prager has criticized women who don't have at least a few female friends. I'm one of them.